Being a mother and a wife is never easy. You have to take care of the kids, tend the household, and of course, find the time to be beautiful for your husband. Not only that, but you also need to work and earn money. How’s that for life, yeah?
The pressures on a woman are real plus the society expects too much from us, and yet they don’t acknowledge moms as we deserve. I guess it’s a good thing for me that I have a husband who appreciates me even for the little things. He will go to great lengths just to make me feel better. Now, that’s a man worth marrying, right?
A couple that exercises and eats together stay together. (I don’t know who said that, and maybe, I made it up.) So we do that as much as we can. We go on dates, but it’s not the regular type of dating. My husband and I consider couples yoga as a date. We also do intermittent fasting. Every night, we prepare our dinner together, and at least twice a month, we go to different restaurants and eat early dinner. That’s another date for us.
I know what you’re going to say – we’re lame. Exercising is not a date. Cooking together and eating it afterward at home is not a date. We are a lame couple who has a mediocre lifestyle. I get it, but I don’t care. Are you exercising together with your husband? I’m sure not all of you are doing that. Are you having fun in the kitchen, laughing and joking around with your spouse while cooking dinner? I’m sure most women are buying take out or eating by themselves. Not us. My husband will always find the time to spend with me because as he says, I am his life’s priority. Who else can say that about their marriage?
The simple act of focusing on exercise can give us a break from current concerns and damaging self-talk. — Sarah Gingell Ph.D.
Anyway, moving on, I suggested to him that we do couples yoga. At first, he was like – isn’t that a woman’s thing? I laughed at his facial expression when he said that and showed him Adam Levine’s well-toned body. He asked me if Adam Levine did yoga. I said yes, of course. He and his wife do it together too.
What I like about couples yoga is the fact that it strengthened our marital bond. I was insecure about my body after giving birth since I gained thirty pounds. So, the perfect husband that he is, he told me we could exercise and lose weight together.
Psychological benefits include: a decrease in anxiety and depression; mood improvement; increase in social adjustment, self-acceptance and self-actualization; decreased hostility; and an increase in subjective well-being (happiness). — Goali Saedi Bocci Ph.D.
Yoga gave us a chance to learn new skills, and we also helped each other out. I taught him how to do the sun salutation properly while he explained to me how a downward dog must be performed. It was a bonding moment, and when a couple of bonds, isn’t that like a date, as well? We enhanced our communication, and we had fun. What could be better than that?
As for our intermittent fasting eating lifestyle, we plan the dinner meals. Every Saturday, we go to the market and buy what we need for the coming week. We eat dinner at 6:30 in the evening, but we start the preparations an hour earlier. (People who do intermittent fasting eats at an 8-hour window. We have our first meal of the day around 12:00 noon and our last meal is the dinner that we cook together.) During the prep time, we talk about our day and more. That’s one hour of quality time spent with my spouse.
Yoga is one of the very few places a person can go these days with the assurance that no one will be talking with that extra loud voice that we seem to reserve for cell use. — F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W.
I don’t expect everyone to be like us. It doesn’t mean though that your marriage is not good if you don’t exercise or cook together. I am just talking about my experience, and it works for us. I hope that you and your spouse find that bonding moment so that your married life is fulfilled, in a way, like ours.